Today I had a baby shower thrown for Paul & I by some co-workers, it was so much fun! We didn't play any embarrassing games, the food was delicious, and the conversation was great :) I got a few things off of my registries - and a few things not on my registry so a good mixture.
I got a lot of gift cards - which is PERFECT - and it'll be fun to use them as I love to shop :) I also got this adorable keepsake kit, a lot of clothes with matching accessories, & a handmade afghan which is SO soft! From our registry we got the crib aquarium, the co-sleeper, & our baby monitor.
Everyone was so sweet, my co-workers really amaze me with all their kindness <3
I started my 32nd week last Thursday - just eight more weeks to go. By the time I see my doctor next, I'll only have SIX more weeks to go. The time is just flying by.
The most interesting recent development - physical wise - is I've begun to feel an on-again-off-again sensation of pressure on the right side of my pelvis. Peeking inside of Rebekah's copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting" (because my copy is still packed away) it says that's pretty normal for the 32nd week. I'm taking it as a good sign that my pelvic is getting ready! I want so badly to have a quick labor and I just hope that my body is prepared for it. Mom had some pretty quick deliveries - I believe she said her first was only eight hours from when she began to feel contractions to when Joshua was born. Rebekah was not so lucky, she said she was feeling contractions for about a day and a half before going into the hospital and then it was about 12 hours later when Zeke was born.
This weekend I spent some time helping Rebekah get ready for the arrival of Eli - her due date is March 17th. Mom & Dad picked up the crib from our house which we'd been storing for them and delivered it on Saturday. After visiting with them for a bit, we went to Target and picked up stuff for her recovery after labor and we also made sure to snag me a pair of nursing bras that she was raving about. They really are VERY comfortable and, surprisingly, have an underwire. I was getting really worried that I wouldn' t be able to find a nursing bra that had an underwire and I feel as though I appear grotesque without that much needed support. I mean, c'on. I had to buy a 40DD & 42DD - that's just indecent and unflattering without support. Afterward was dinner at TGI Fridays and all in all we had a really good time. It had been awhile since it just was her and I going out and it was very recharging. I'm so glad that I can rely on Rebekah to help me out with all of this stuff - I just have no idea and luckily she's been through it all already. We dropped off the mattress on Sunday - so hopefully she's feeling much more prepared.
Next is to take care of my OWN preparations! Last night I finally got around to washing all of Evy's bedding - but didn't get around to putting it on her bed. With no light in there - I think I'm going to have to wait to do much in there unless the sun is up. So this afternoon that's going to be the first thing on my list. We still haven't put the changing table/dresser together (which, I forgot to post, was delivered last TUESDAY) so we're going to work on that this week too. I told Paul I want to have her room as assembled as possible BEFORE this weekend so I can show it off at the baby shower. I'm even going to put her curtains up - though I don't think I'm going to put up the wall decals.
At our Bradley Class last night we practiced some pain management positions that would be helpful. In order to simulate the pain, we were given large ice cubes that we held in our hand for the duration of an actual labor contraction. Though I know ice is really nothing in comparison to true labor pains, it was an interesting experience because it was dealing with a discomfort with pain management all the same. I found that I was most comfortable when I wasn't sitting. We tried standing & facing each other, standing while leaning over a counter, and then kneeling on the floor while facing & leaning over a chair. We also tried one where I sat down in a chair and Paul knelt in front of me - but sitting just wasn't comfortable - it put a lot of pressure on my stomach and made me feel squished.
Next we have to try some actual "pushing" positions because I'm worried I wont be familiar enough with those and end up making the whole thing worse. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to want to squat, so its up to me to find some other positions that I'm comfortable with.
We also learned a lot about what to expect from my body AFTER birth - which was very helpful to me. I really have no idea what to expect and did wonder about bodily functions including my first time urinating and how much blood and discharge to expect. She also stressed the importance, once again, of being as bed-ridden as possible the first two weeks. She was explaining that after her first & second child she bled for the entire six week duration and insisted with her third child that her husband stay home and allow her to rest for the first two weeks. She said that the rest really paid off, and she'd healed almost entirely after the two weeks.
I guess we'll just see what happens.
When we went to our 6th prenatal appointment on the 12th of this month - we went ahead and made all of the necessary appointments until my due date - all remaining five of them. So I've put those on the calendar if anyone is interested. I kept them all on Thursdays and all at the same time so its easy to remember.
I was also able to see that if I needed to be induced, it would be on or near the 28th of April. Let's just hope that doesn't happen.
Well, I had my doctor's appointment today. It wasn't a great visit, I really feel like it was just a smash-and-grab affair - smash the heart monitor on my belly, grab my vitals and run. To his defense though, he did have a woman delivering and he could have chosen not to see me at all because of it.
But, because it was smash-and-grab, we didn't get to talk about my birth plan. In fact, I don't think he's interested in talking about it at all. He admitted that despite the fact that he's had it for a week - he didn't read it and likely wouldn't - so I shouldn't even bother making another appointment for that purpose. I tried to go over my really important points, but it was a lost cause as he just kept going into stories about other patients. Oh? Some 4 ft nothing woman had a 5 lb baby and still tore? What does that have anything to do with me not wanting internal fetal monitoring? Oh? Women who put, "I don't want a c-section" on their birth plans are just asking for c-sections huh? How very comforting. I shouldn't be concerned about your use of Cytotec just because you haven't needed to use it in well over a year? That puts my mind at ease!
I'm so frustrated. If I had any other option I think I'd take it right now. The whole time I just wanted to say, "Can you stop talking for a moment so I can ask you my questions?" I've found some doulas in our area and I've emailed a few asking if they're even available - so I'll wait to hear back from them. However, I still don't know if we can afford the cost - plus what are they going to do if my doctor will hardly shut up for a minute and listen to ME?
On a side note, I got to see a placenta at our Bradley Class on Tuesday. It was a bit horrific and I've decided that I'm not one of those mothers who want to see/keep it afterward just as I'm not one that wants to feel the baby's head as it's pushing through.
I thought to publish mine here :) I'll post after tomorrow's appointment as to what was given the kabash and what wasn't. I'm sure some is really out of my hands because they are "hospital policy" - but I'm still going to fight for it.
"This is our first baby, and though we admittedly have only a little idea of what we’re in store for, we appreciate your positive support in regards to our preferences for our labor and birth. We would like to try to have a drug-free labor and birth, and have prepared the best we can by practicing the Bradley Method. We understand that there may be circumstances that are out of our hands, but we hope that the information provided below will help in communicating our wishes for an “ideal” labor & birth situation. Thank You!
• My bloodtype is Rh- (Rhesus Negative)
• I would like to wear contact lenses or glasses at all times when conscious.
• Please perform no routine prepatory tasks (shaving, enema, etc.), unless requested.
• I expect that doctors and hospital staff will discuss all procedures with me before they are performed.
• I would like to be free to walk, change positions and use the bathroom as needed or desired.
• I prefer to eat and drink throughout labor, as desired.
• I will remain hydrated by drinking moderate amounts of fluids (water, juice, ice chips).
• So I can stay as mobile as possible, I would prefer to have a heparin lock administered instead of an IV.
• I would like a quiet, soothing environment during labor, with dim lights and minimal interruptions.
• I would like to play my own music.
• Please limit the number of vaginal exams.
• As long as my daughter is doing well, I prefer that fetal heart tones be monitored intermittently with an external monitor or doppler, even if the membranes have ruptured.
• I feel very strongly that I would like to avoid internal fetal monitoring.
• Please allow me to vocalize as desired during labor and birth without comment or criticism.
• I do not mind observation by students, interns or staff.
• Though I do not mind observation, I would prefer if talking was kept to a minimum.
• I would like to avoid induction unless it is medically necessary.
• As long as my daughter and I are healthy, I do not want to discuss induction prior to 42 weeks.
• I would like to try alternative means of labor augmentation, like walking or nipple stimulation, before pitocin or artificial rupture of membranes is attempted.
• Please do not rupture my membranes artificially unless medically indicated.
• Please do not offer anesthesia/analgesia unless I ask for it.
• If I ask for pain relief, please feel free to offer non-medical choices for coping and/or remind me how close I am to the birth.
• I would like to avoid all narcotics, if possible.
Cesarean Section Delivery
• I feel very strongly that I would like to avoid a cesarean delivery
• If a cesarean is necessary, I expect to be fully informed of all procedures and actively participate in decision-making.
• I would like Paul (Husband) to be present during the surgery.
• I would prefer epidural anesthesia, if possible, in order to remain conscious through the delivery.
• I would like to have a respectful atmosphere without chatter during any part of the surgical procedure.
• If possible, please do not strap my arms to the table during the procedure.
• If conditions permit, I would like to be the first to hold my daughter after the delivery.
• If possible, I would like to breastfeed my daughter immediately after the birth.
• If conditions permit, my daughter should be given to Paul (Husband) immediately after the birth.
• I would like our plans outlined here for after the birth to be followed as closely as possible.
• I prefer not to have an episiotomy unless it is medically indicated.
• To help my perineum stretch, please help guide my pushing efforts by letting me know when to push and when to stop.
• I would rather tear than have an episiotomy.
• Please suture tears only if necessary.
• Even if I am fully dilated, and assuming my daughter is not in distress, I would like to wait until I feel the urge to push before beginning the pushing phase.
• I would like the freedom to push and deliver in any position I like.
• I would like a soothing environment during the actual birth, with dim lights and quiet voices.
• I would like to have the birth recorded with photographs, video tape and/or tape recording.
Immediately after the birth
• Please place my daughter on my stomach/chest immediately after delivery.
• I would like to breastfeed my daughter immediately.
• I prefer to wait for spontaneous delivery of the placenta and do not want a routine injection of pitocin.
• I would like to wait 10-15 minutes before the umbilical cord is cut.
• Please remove my IV/Heparin lock/catheter as soon as possible after delivery.
• I would like to hold my daughter skin-to-skin during the first hours to help regulate baby's body temperature.
• Please evaluate and bathe my daughter at my bedside. If possible, please evaluate my daughter on my abdomen.
• If my daughter must go to the nursery for evaluation or medical treatment, Paul (Husband) or Rebekah (Sister) will accompany my daughter at all times.
• Please delay eye medication for my daughter until we are well past the initial bonding period (a couple hours after the birth).
• If available, would prefer erythromycin eye treatment or other antibiotic eye drops instead of silver nitrate.
• I would like to waive the administration of routine Vitamin K, unless medically indicated.
• I would prefer not to be catheterized until I've had some private time to attempt urination on my own.
• If available, I would prefer a private room.
• I would like to have my daughter room-in with me at all times.
• If available, I would like my Paul (Husband) to room-in with me.
• I plan to breastfeed and want to nurse immediately following the birth.
• Unless I am unable to give my consent, please do not give my daughter any supplements without first informing me of the reason(s) and seeking my consent.
• Please do not give my daughter a pacifier.
• I would like to take still photographs during labor and the birth.
• I would like to make a video recording of labor and/or the birth."
Well, I got a call back from my doctor's office and, magically, they had a cancellation and could squeeze me in. When? February 12th. Yes, the same day they cancelled my original appointment.
I don't know if it was me bringing to their attention that there were going to be seven weeks between appointments and that I was in my 3rd trimester, but something seemed to convince them my original appointment date was still needed. I think I give too much credit to the people who make appointments for health care professionals. I assume, that when I give them my name, that they pull my chart. I assume that they take into account everything I'm not telling them when I ask for an appointment. I assume that they are aware of who I am and what my needs are when they are helping me. I think I'll stop assuming because I don't think that happens.
Either way, we're going in tomorrow and I'm excited to get this whole "birth plan talk" out of the way. We talked about creating a birth plan last night at our Bradley Class so on top of the information I got from the internet I also now have some background information too.
My 6th prenatal appointment, which was originally scheduled for February 12th has been cancelled. Apparently my doctor has a lot of surgeries he needs to take care of on that date. Scares me a bit, are all these "surgeries" c-sections? Gosh I hope not. I really don't want a c-section happy doctor and I'm stuck with the guy.
The soonest they could get me in was March 2nd - 9 days short of two months between appointments. Wasn't moving into my 3rd trimester supposed to mean I was seeing the doctor MORE often, not less? I called the office today and brought to their attention that I had such a large gap between appointments and that I was in my 3rd trimester. They said they'd talk to the doctor and give me a call back after lunch so I guess we'll see.
Still waiting on the dresser/changing table to be delivered - good thing we ordered it when we did because I want all of that up before the baby shower on the 28th! Trying not to stress about it, I stress too much.
We finally finished constructing the crib last night! It was pretty hard to get together, mainly because the illustrations were terrible and when it comes to furniture that's actually really important. I'm going to leave my two cents about that issue on the Wal-Mart website. I'm going to try and get the bedding washed tonight, though because we have our Bradley class I probably wont be able to get it on the mattress. No matter really because I'll have to strip everything off once I get the fitted mattress pads that I registered for.
Speaking of registering, it ends up that the office party needed to be moved from March 6th to February 27th. Not a big deal really - I just thought it would be more convenient so far as gift giving goes if the parties weren't so close together. Easier to tell what's been given and all that. So we'll have one on the 27th and one on the 28th - busy, busy!
I bought stamps and got all of the invitations, for the baby shower Rebekah is throwing me, ready last night - I'm going to send them out tomorrow.